"Rahman" & "Rahim"

  Well I found 6 verses with "Rahman" and 61 verses with "Rahim" . while the number of verses with each may vary from these nos -depending on your way of search- , it definitely shows that "Rahim" has been used by far more than "Rahman".  This, however, does not tell us the difference in meaning and their application. 

When reading through all verses with "Rahman" it seams to me that it referes to the mechanism of how we can manage our affairs so that we first ask God for a specific help which is normally granted since he is "Raman".  This is an initiation of a relationship and at this stage is available to any one asking for help, or any one chooses to see God at the end of all rops  running the world.  "Rahman" is paving the way out, so that we can take our turn and make an effort for him.

Now going through the second group of verses with "Rahim" it shows a special kindness, a relationship showing he is kind, he cares, he is there for us. "Rahim" is not initiation of a relationship, it is the love and care that he gives us back in reward to a step that we have gone toward him.  It is the especial attention makes up a motherhood relationship, which when you lack you miss out a major nutrition for your soul to excel.  We may be able to find a remedy for our childhood losses by a true love relationship in our adulthood yet we will never find a replacement for the relationship that we may enjoy with God as the only being that is with us forever. 

In other words, we will never feel calm and settled in our lives unless we have felt the love and care that universe or God is trying to show us.  So we start Quran and everything else with these magic words  "In the of God who is "Rahman" which means facilitator / initiator in his relationship with us and then his "Rahim" ; loving us back when we take every step toward him in our choices and deeds.